Anonymous asked:
Hmm… This is kind of a difficult. I am still struggling to find self-love and confidence each and every day, but my advice to you, as well as anyone else, would be find the things you love about yourself INTERNALLY first. Make sure to practice daily self care as well. I know I always feel better about myself when I am actually nurturing myself the way I should. Also… Comparison is truly the thief of all joy. Watch how you think about yourself. It is an actual cycle. Your thoughts feed into your feelings which feed into your actions which feed into your health (mental and physical) which leads into your thoughts… And so on and so forth. Work on negative thought stopping. For instance, you may think “I am worthless” about yourself, but instead think, “Know what? I am NOT worthless. I offer x, y, and/or z to the world.” If you think you can’t find a way to change the thought around, do it anyway. Another example would be, “I would be pretty if I were skinnier” which is a thought I have almost every day. The way you stop it is by saying, “I may not be like him/her, but I am me. That is enough and I AM pretty. I like my (insert at least one thing you like about yourself physically, no matter how small it may seem). Lastly, eliminate toxic people from your life. This may seem like it has nothing to do with self-love or confidence, but it has everything to do with it. If you keep people around you that make you feel poorly about yourself, whether you realize it or not, that won’t aid you in your journey. Self-love will not happen over night. I have been working on this for more than half my life and I am only nineteen years old. It is about the journey though and not the destination. Keep actively working at it and it will get easier, I promise.
I am sorry if this was way too long and winded, possibly even unhelpful, but it is the best way I could explain it. Thank you so much for asking this and I wish you the best in your path to self-love.
Love and light,
~ Bre
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